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Andrew remembers the week everything changed. When his flight back home to Chicago landed on March 11, he returned from a family gathering to a city on the verge of shutting down. It was the week the World Health Organization declared Covid-19 a pandemic. The week Andrew transitioned to a work-from-home dad, trying to “play daycare and professional employee at the same time,” he recalled. It was also the week when the tone of conversations with his family shifted. “You’re not just calling to check in and see how everyone is. You’re calling to go into the arena.” He hesitates to ask what his parents in Georgia are up to now, afraid they’ll share stories of frequent shopping trips or other outings, sparking another debate on the importance of taking precautions during a pandemic. “It’s been this role reversal of the kid sneaking out at night,” Andrew, who is in his early 30s, said. “Now it’s the septuagenarian sneaking out to the golf course … and trying to hide it from the chil...

In the proudest moment of my quarantine, I built my own bike. Am I confident enough in the structural integrity of this bike to actually ride it? No—I duct-tape most of my furniture to the wall so it doesn’t collapse. If I were quarantining with a boyfriend, would I have insisted that he step in to help around hour seven? Absolutely. I’m living my peak singlehood. In the Before Times, I was always casually seeing and/or fighting with some lucky man. Now, for the first time in my life, I’m not only single; I’m incapable of changing that. Meanwhile, romantic cohabitators have ascended into the most heightened form of coupledom. “At this point, I don’t even remember how to shower alone, so it’s hard to imagine spending a night without my significant other,” says Caroline Doyle, a 25-year-old comedian in New York City. There isn’t space anymore for the type of dating I used to like best: casual, in between. The only two options left are Alone and Together. In our heightened st...

Navigating these uncertain times created a lot of stress and worry. But it also challenged us as an industry to be more creative and more innovative. We’ve seen so much resiliency in our communities and in the real estate industry as a whole and it’s been inspiring. Brokerage leaders have pivoted to completely virtual communication, and in most cases, we’ve heard they’re seeing even higher attendance and engagement during those meetings. We see real estate agents adapt and adjust by embracing technology to engage with their contacts and create buyer and seller presentations. They also adjusted and do virtual home tours and open houses. We’ve even seen a brokerage reach 100% adoption of MoxiPresent with their agents during this pandemic. Talk about pivoting. Budgets may dry up, lead sources can certainly dry up, but your relationships (if nurtured) will not dry up. The MoxiWorks suite of solutions operates under the principle that sphere-based selling is not only one of the...

Have you noticed the way the coronavirus pandemic is making you feel wary and unsafe around other people? You may be seeing other humans as a huge threat to your well-being. Though this sensation is especially noticeable right now, this is a tendency of human nature that all of us experience (to a lesser degree) every day, and especially with the people we love most. As a master life coach, I teach people are haunted by two subconscious fears, the fear of failure (that you are not good enough) and the fear of loss (that you aren’t safe). Every human on the planet is fighting these same two fears/beliefs every day, and this means we all function in a fear state most of the time. A fear state means you feel generally unsafe in the world, and this feeling makes it seem like every person around you is a threat. These people could take from you, mistreat you, take from the quality of your life, and/or make you feel like a failure, and this is especially true about the people cl...

T he 75th anniversary celebrations of VE Day may have been more muted than planned, but they still had the ingredients of a national pick-me-up. It remains striking how little the annual commemorations make space for reflection on the reality of living through war and the years that followed. Speak to those affected, and individual memories are far more complex than the national story of years of hardship followed by the sweetness of it all being over. So many of the parallels drawn between war and pandemic have come in the form of cheap battle metaphors, which have little to add. But a better understanding of the way in which the social earthquake of war, experienced collectively by a generation, profoundly affects family relationships over the long term, might offer something. It’s the same for the first world war: we rarely talk about the fact that the dreadful death toll – almost 750,000 British men were killed – meant that single young women outnumbered their male p...

It is no surprise that the COVID-19 pandemic causes stress , but it may also have powerful negative consequences for romantic relationships , such as increased conflict and reduced relationship quality. However, one quality displayed by your partner could help to prevent damage to your relationship from the stressors associated with the virus. Balzarini and colleagues  surveyed more than 3,500 participants as part of an online research project examining the effects of COVID-19 on relationships. The survey was presented in 10 different languages and respondents included individuals from more than 50 different countries. Heterosexual, bisexual, and gay and lesbian respondents were included in the analysis. The survey assessed feelings of loneliness , financial stressors, as well as perceived relationship satisfaction, commitment, and conflict. (Note: For now, the results have been published online as a pre-print; they have not yet been published in a peer-reviewed jou...

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