Hard Truths About Love And Relationships No One Likes To Admit

As much as we'd like them to be, relationships aren't about fairy tales in the modern-day dating scene. Okay, it may seem like it in the honeymoon stage - the first few months - but even that isn't smooth sailing for everyone. Unlike what movies show us, the real ones are all about ups and downs, shifting perspectives and roadblocks. We're all aware of the reality; however, we have a hard time comprehending and admitting it. It's important that we understand that it's okay to be vulnerable and show your partner your weaknesses. It's okay to question things and to have expectations. But the first step is admitting it to ourselves.
Here are 10 hard truths about relationships that we fear to admit.

1. Romance will fade away

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Passion and romance will fade over time, but the trick is to not let it die completely. You won't be planning surprises for your partner all the time and he won't take you on dates every weekend. A middle path needs to be figured out here, so the bond stays strong.

2. Every relationship is different

Just because people around us are going about their relationships a certain way, it doesn't mean the same applies to ours too.

3. There are days when we regret being in a relationship

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Yes, it happens to everyone and there's no shame in admitting it. A relationship can't be about happy times every single day; there will be moments or days when it'll make you feel shitty and miserable. However, most things can be resolved by communicating well with our partner.

4. More often than not, we dwell on our partner's weaknesses

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What this does it build resentment and, over time, it festers, affecting the relationship in the long term. Instead of constantly thinking about where your partner is falling short, weigh it against the things they do and their strengths.

5. We often blame the relationship for our failures

We have to actually stop holding our relationship and partner responsible for our failures. Instead, we should take ownership of the mistakes we commit and try our best to correct it.

6. We try to hide our flaws, even from our partner

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And that's a big mistake right there. There's no point in hiding who we really are or the mistakes we make from our SO; it's all going to come out sometime. In fact, by hiding our flaws we're actually keeping them away from who we truly are.

7. Ignorance is not bliss

Ignoring conflicts may give us a good night's sleep today, but in the long run, it will just become a bigger issue - one that might have the potential to ruin our bond forever.

8. Life isn't a Bollywood or TV drama

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Bollywood and TV may be realistic, but they are certainly not reality. Your relationship isn't going to follow the same course. Things will not just come together magically, and there's not always a happy ending. You have to prepare yourself for heartbreak, in some form or the other.

9. We're all a little selfish

This may be one of the most brutal truths about relationships. We all like the concept of unconditional love, but, in reality, it's fiction. We do the things we do because we have a selfish motive at heart, even if it's as basic as happiness. And there's nothing wrong with that.

10. Relationships need more than love

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Yes, love is needed. But, we also need friendship, mutual trust, compatibility, honesty, and more.

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