Good Relationships Are Good for Our Health


As Congress and the administration barely recover from the government shutdown and move to address challenging policy issues in a short-term funding extension, the importance of re-establishing strong, across-the-aisle relationships, which have historically allowed government to function, is clear. Bad relationships on Capitol Hill not only paralyze sound policymaking, they're also creating a truly unhappy environment: Witness the number of lawmakers retiring or refusing to run when their terms end this fall.
Sen. Joe Manchin – the West Virginia Democrat who has good relationships with the opposition – recently summed up his feelings about Congress: "This place sucks." The bad relations that now characterize administration and Congressional discourse may hold a lesson for our own health and well-being.
We humans are social. Like other animals that live in groups, we tend to thrive emotionally when together and our personalities tend to wither when alone. We derive strength from community; being with people we love gives us a more positive outlook.
Evidence shows that this isn't only true for our social well-being. It's becoming increasingly clear that the quality of our relationships has a major impact on all aspects of our health. A 2010 review assessed 148 studies involving more than 308,000 hospitalized patients, extracting data on participants including cause of mortality, initial health status and pre-existing health conditions, as well as on study characteristics including length of follow-up and type of assessment of social relationships. It concluded people with stronger social relationships had a 50 percent increased likelihood of survival over a 7.5-year post-hospitalization period than those with weaker relationships.
The 2001 review "Close Personal Relationships and Health Outcomes" looks at positive impacts from the different aspects of relationships. The authors find that the kinds of relationships we have (i.e. co-workers, family, friends), the compatibility of the personalities we seek out and depth of feelings we share – in other words, the "meaningfulness" of relationships – have the biggest impact on our health and well-being.
Even casual relationships, as with co-workers, buffer work-related stress. But poor work relationships can be detrimental. A longitudinal study of 13,000 men and women workers found that poor social support from co-workers, coupled with job stress and low-decision-making power, was linked to increases in cardiovascular risk factors including hypertension and hyperlipidemia, as well as behavioral risk factors, including increased frequency of smoking.

If work relationships can affect our health, what about more "meaningful" relationships? And what are the components of relationships that actually confer benefit?
Sociologists have identified those "qualities of relationships" that help our health. They include social ties, which foster emotional support (this has indirect impacts on health by reducing stress, fostering a sense of purpose and improving mental health) and friendships (which includes being active in clubs and sports) which allow us to relax, reducing blood pressure and heart rate; personal control, which allows an individual to feel they guide their own destiny; symbolic meanings, the connection with spouses, parents and children, which may spur a greater sense of responsibility to stay healthier; and mental health, that works with the other relationship factors to shape physical health.
Touch and eye contact are part of friendship. A University of North Carolina study found that women who receive more welcome hugs have lower heart rates and blood pressure. Hugs strengthen the immune system: gentle pressure on the sternum stimulates the thymus, boosting production of white blood cells. Research at the University of California Berkley's School of Public Health found that eye contact and touch may boost survival of patients with complex diseases, while researchers at the University of British Columbia found that touch boosted growth of premature babies by 47 percent, allowing release from neonatal intensive care six days earlier than an unstimulated control group.
Romantic relationships seem especially good for us. For example, married individuals may have better immune systems. C-reactive protein is a marker of systemic inflammation in the body. Married men were 44 percent less likely than other participants to be classified in a high-risk C-reactive protein group. The effect of being married for men was roughly equivalent to that of being a nonsmoker with blood pressure and body mass index (that measures obesity) within normal ranges. On the other hand, bad marriages may cause harm: In a large sample of women clinically diagnosed with coronary heart disease, marital stress was associated with a 2.9-fold increase in the risk of a recurrent cardiac event.
The benefits of good relationships may also play out, at the macro-level, on population-wide "social cohesion." One author of a study on the impacts of social cohesion on individual health recommends that, in order to "achieve further advancement in population health, developed countries should consider policies that would foster a society with a high level of social inclusion, social capital, and social diversity." A society that reduces exclusion (disparities and inequality between races and classes) while strengthening social relations (interactions and ties at the intimate level, face-to-face), should be a healthier one.
Overwhelmingly, evidence shows that good relationships can reduce risk from the effects of long-term health conditions, aid recovery and even prevent us from becoming ill in the first place. Study after study finds it is the quality of our relationships that matter most. Whether spousal, familial or friend, relationships need to be "meaningful" – committed, robust and resilient not only because they add to our quality of life but they help protect our health.
In short, an ounce of good relationship may be worth a pound of cure

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