Red flags to Note In Your Relationships

Relationships have never been easy. Like the infamous quote that says; It takes two to tango, relationship require two different individuals. Now, this requires maturity, understanding, patience, a lot of love among other important things. Every good relationship takes a lot of hard work to achieve and sustain the forever-after. Often times when we have problems in our relationships, we’re quick to blame the other party. What most of us don’t realize is that there are many instances in a relationship where we are the problem! Now see a few of these behaviors that may just be the key spoilers in our relationship;

Contempt


Now, this one is tricky. It can take the shape or form of name-calling, mockery and hostile humour. Whatever form or shape it takes, it is all in all dangerous and extremely poisonous. In fact, this is a public show of disgust to your partner. It poses as a serious problem when your  partner is getting the message that you’re disgusted with him or her.

Defensiveness

Defensive people are blind to their own faults and make excuses all the time for inappropriate behavior. In fact, they pick fights by misinterpreting their partner’s intentions. Defensiveness escalates conflict rather than resolves it. Sorry is very difficult for these ones to say.

Criticism

Complaining and criticism are similar yet different. And yes, everyone complains; it’s naturally part of our day-to-day life especially when it is about another person. When it comes to criticism; it’s corrosive and it’s an attack on your partner’s core personality and is a big shovel for chipping away at their self-esteem. And this will slowly but surely cause an irreversible damage in your relationship.

Withdrawal

This is also called stonewalling which essentially means withdrawing from a conversation, even if physically present. Such people do not empathize, respond or connect effectively thereby, cutting off all communication and leaving your partner feeling alone and isolated.

Low self esteem

This is when a partner thinks low of themselves. it can be damaging to a relationship if the other party has to constantly be walking on egg shells around you.

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