Relationship counseling
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We are all shaped by our previous relationships, mainly the ones with our parents, and the things we carry from our past are often provoked into awareness in our new relationships.
For instance, say you grew up with an alcoholic parent, and your partner goes to a lot of parties and drinks excessively around Christmas time. You find yourself being anxious and worried, and start arguments with your partner. You may or may not realise it is your past sparking old worries and anxieties, and most often, we don’t know why we react the way we do.
When we are feeling insecure or unsafe in our relationships, we find ourselves in arguments, often without understanding why we are fighting. Please note, I’m not talking about violence in a relationship — if there is violence in a relationship, you should leave or seek help immediately. I’m talking about scaring each other with everyday arguments, which make your partner feel unsafe.
A couple therapist can help uncover what is unresolved from your past, and what shows up in your current relationship. We can help couples communicate better, not just with words, but with positive body language, gestures and facial expressions to ensure you both feel safe and secure in your relationship.
Relationships should be treated with the same importance as your car or your teeth,
The most common mistake I see couples make is waiting too long to seek help — unhappy couples wait an average of six years before getting counselling. Many times, the built-up resentment has by then become too overpowering and one person may have already given up, not to mention the fact that your body may have been under stress for a long period of time.
So, I sincerely believe that the best thing you can do if you want to invest in your relationship and your overall wellbeing is to do a yearly check-in with a couples therapist. It might just be one session, or just like any health check-up, we might need to run a few tests or examine what’s happening to really figure out what is going on and how to fix it.
I have a few happy couples that come to me every year for regular check-ups. Some of them have been in therapy before, so they have learnt conflict resolution, soothing the other party when they’re distressed and have an understanding that the past can impact the present — but they know that the best thing to do is nip things in the bud, and to resolve things before they become deeper issues.www.lastdon.org
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We are all shaped by our previous relationships, mainly the ones with our parents, and the things we carry from our past are often provoked into awareness in our new relationships.
For instance, say you grew up with an alcoholic parent, and your partner goes to a lot of parties and drinks excessively around Christmas time. You find yourself being anxious and worried, and start arguments with your partner. You may or may not realise it is your past sparking old worries and anxieties, and most often, we don’t know why we react the way we do.
When we are feeling insecure or unsafe in our relationships, we find ourselves in arguments, often without understanding why we are fighting. Please note, I’m not talking about violence in a relationship — if there is violence in a relationship, you should leave or seek help immediately. I’m talking about scaring each other with everyday arguments, which make your partner feel unsafe.
A couple therapist can help uncover what is unresolved from your past, and what shows up in your current relationship. We can help couples communicate better, not just with words, but with positive body language, gestures and facial expressions to ensure you both feel safe and secure in your relationship.
Relationships should be treated with the same importance as your car or your teeth,
The most common mistake I see couples make is waiting too long to seek help — unhappy couples wait an average of six years before getting counselling. Many times, the built-up resentment has by then become too overpowering and one person may have already given up, not to mention the fact that your body may have been under stress for a long period of time.
So, I sincerely believe that the best thing you can do if you want to invest in your relationship and your overall wellbeing is to do a yearly check-in with a couples therapist. It might just be one session, or just like any health check-up, we might need to run a few tests or examine what’s happening to really figure out what is going on and how to fix it.
I have a few happy couples that come to me every year for regular check-ups. Some of them have been in therapy before, so they have learnt conflict resolution, soothing the other party when they’re distressed and have an understanding that the past can impact the present — but they know that the best thing to do is nip things in the bud, and to resolve things before they become deeper issues.www.lastdon.org
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