Self Appreciation

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Our relationship with ourselves is the most important relationship. It is the beginning. It is the foundation. Everything starts and sprouts from here. Which is why focusing on this relationship, prioritizing it, is vital. It is essential.
“Your relationship with yourself affects every other relationship in your life,” said Lea Seigen Shinraku, MFT, a therapist in private practice in San Francisco. For instance, if you’re regularly berating yourself, you might assume that others are berating you, too. Which can lead you to feel defensive or inferior, she said.
Self-criticism also activates our body’s stress-response system — fight/flight/freeze — making it harder to think clearly and respond to what’s actually happening in the moment, she said.
Plus, “if you don’t know how to relate to the various aspects of yourself or you’re afraid to be alone, you will look to others to take care of you.” Of course, relying on others is not inherently problematic. It becomes problematic when our perspective is that we are inherently wrong or broken or damaged. And it can “cause us to stay in relationships that aren’t serving us,” Shinraku added.
“We have to live with ourselves every day; why wouldn’t we want to deepen a profound connection with ourselves?” said Kelly Hendricks, MA, a couple and family therapist in San Diego specializing in helping couples intimately bond and supporting women to find their Mr. Right and empower themselves with confidence.
What does a profound connection with ourselves look like? It is everything from knowing who we are to nourishing our needs.
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