Ways to Love Yourself the Most and Transform Your Life

The Power to Transform Your Life Lies Within You

When you love yourself the most, your life will start to transform in ways you can’t even imagine.

It seems almost counter intuitive to put yourself first, particularly for so many of us women who always end up looking after everyone else and putting ourselves last. We’re so used to pleasing everyone and being who we think we should be.

Yet it doesn’t help us.

Because when we put everyone else before ourselves we are not loving ourselves the most. And we’re giving our energy and power away. We often end up exhausted, even leading to burnout.

Yet if you dare to change things around and do it differently, your whole world can transform.

When you love yourself the most, you’re showing the world how you want to be treated. As the outer world reflects our inner world. When we love and cherish ourselves the most. We then attract others who love and cherish us too. We attract people and relationships where we are loved, respected and treated well.

1) Set & Reinforce Your Boundaries

My clients are often worried about putting down better boundaries. Worrying that people won’t like them or that they’ll upset others.

When we’re in that fog of people pleasing, you’re not actually keeping everyone happy anyway. As no matter how hard you try, you just cannot please everyone! And you end up exhausted and even resentful doing things you don’t really have the time or energy for.

When you start setting boundaries, and communicating what you really need in a lovingly assertive way. You find that others love and respect you more. It also gives them permission to set boundaries and say ‘no’ when they need to too. You feel more relaxed and start doing things you want to do.

Your relationships improve, and you feel so much better as you stop giving all your energy away. That’s the first step to loving yourself the most.

2) Go Within and Strengthen Your Relationship with Yourself

Our primary relationship is the one with ourselves. The more closely we snuggle with ourselves, love ourselves and the better we know ourselves. The more present and loving we can be in all our other relationships.

When something is ‘off’ in a relationship or you don’t like the behaviour of the other person. Look inside first, as often the other person is reflecting back something we are doing. So, taking the example of boundaries — if people are stepping all over your boundaries and you’re finding it hard to reinforce them. How are your boundaries with yourself?

Other common feelings or ‘problems’ in our relationship can be not feeling loved, not feeling heard, listened to, not being respected or not feeling like our needs are being met…

Some powerful questions for self-reflection include: Are you loving yourself enough? Are you listening to yourself? Are you paying yourself enough attention? Are you honouring your own needs? Are you trusting yourself?

If we’re not, then things will be reflected back to us in our closest relationships.

When you love yourself the most, you have the courage to go inside and look without judgement. You can transform and change what you accept. And then the outside world changes too.

3) Love Yourself Enough to Change Your Perspective & Expect The Best

We attract what we expect. This can be very useful when looking at our relationships with the people around us. If we expect people around us to behave in a certain way, they often will behave that way. This can be a problem if they are behaving in a way that is difficult or challenging.

Instead of slipping into judgement and getting drawn in to a cycle of being annoyed or getting angry etc. Where the cycle repeats and the person repeats the behaviour again and you do to. We need to change our perspective and expect differently. Or take it one step further and remove expectations of how it should be.

The more accepting, non-judgemental and unattached we can be the better, Of course we cannot physically change a person. That is up to the other person, and it can be a good idea to take a step back and also firm up our boundaries.

Look if there is anything inside ourselves that we need to heal or transform. Just check in on what you are ‘expecting’ them to do and let that go. Let the energy expand and transform.

The World is our mirror

When you love yourself the most, you’re showing the world how you want to be treated. And that will be reflected back to you, as the world is our mirror meaning you can transform your life from the inside out.

Start loving yourself the most by firming up your boundaries, taking time to go within and to freshen your perspectives and expectations.

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