Is "The One" (According to Relationship Pros)



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These days, when it comes to love, there's so much pressure to find the "right" person. But how do you know if your relationship is destined to go under or to go the distance? Business Insider asked some relationship experts for the signs to look out for when you're trying to figure out if someone is right for you.

They pass the bar test

"When you're at a bar (or restaurant, wherever) with your new partner, are you looking around to see who else is out there or who might see you two together? Or are you perfectly content with your partner, and you want everyone there to notice you with him/her? If the latter is true, then he/she passes the test." — Erika Ettin, dating coach and founder of dating site A Little Nudge

They don't hold you back

"A person who can authentically be excited about your success and goals in life is someone who won't feel the need to hold you back. Most unhealthy relationships include some form of sabotaging of one partner. Dating someone who is happy with their life means they can be happy for you and alongside you." — Shannon Thomas, therapist and author of Healing From Hidden Abuse

They don't want to change you

"When you listen to your heart, you'll feel whether or not the person you're dating is right for you. This is known as intuition—your heart's message to you. Keep in mind that your intuition may send out warnings as well. It may come as a gut reaction. For example, if your partner wants to change you in any way. If that happens, run. That is a sign of a controlling person and he/she will never treat you properly." — Tracy Malone, founder of Narcissist Abuse Support

They fit into your life

"Ask yourself: Do they get along with the other people in my life? Do I get along with their friends and family? Do we have mutual interests and things that we enjoy doing together that can be a source of sustainability in a relationship? If the answer is yes, you may be on the right track." — Holly Daniels, Ph.D., a doctor who specializes anxiety, co-dependency, and relationship addiction at Sober College

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